Ten years ago…….
In the sultry afternoon of April, when the weather in Kolkata normally is humid and people tend to stay indoors avoidcoming out of their offices and even homes. It was a very sweltering summer afternoon that Mukesh came for consultation drenched in sweat.
He was a well built man of medium height dark completion with broad nose wearing expensive diamond rings suggestive of his more than enough status.
” doctor, I have E.D” he began,” I want a quick relief from it, but with out any side effects” he demanded. “Dear Mukesh ” doctor sounded sympathetic and assuring, ” without knowing your problem in detail, without a physical examination, we will not know which medicine or combination of medicines would work on you the best. Be rest assured the medicines do not cause any side effects” informed the doctor.
“Yes. Aha, alright ” Mukesh agreed and continued, ” for past five months I am not getting ere tons and not able to perform with my wife”.
“Do you have any other medical conditions?, ” doctor began his interrogations.
” Any known history of allergies or sleep disturbances?”
” Blood pressure or diabetes?”
“Any pain in bones muscles or joints?”
“Please set up to the examination table and lie down relaxed.”
Mukesh quickly followed the instruction of the doctor, got up on the table and lowered his pants down for closer examination. The doctor examined him with a vibrating machine and shook his head with satisfaction. “You may get up now.” As Mukesh adjusted back his pants and came back to his chair doctor began.” It seems that your case is psychological erectile dysfunction. Your clinical response are good.” Mukesh, returned next day with his reports on blood hormones which were normal thus confirming the doctor’s provisional diagnosis. “How long will it take for me to become normal”, Mukesh asked. In the past six months as you informed you didn’t have any intercourse but can you recollect how many times did you ejaculate? Mukesh became tensed he shifted his posture on the chair and confessed “I have a girl friend as well. I did have sex with her. I got erection after simulation but they were not as hard as they used to be earlier.”. Do you think you have married a wrong person” the doctor enquired politely. Mukesh nodded in affirmation. Mukesh you have to attend the counselling sessions along with the medications I will be prescribing. During the counselling sessions mukesh revealed his negative feelings toward his wife. He also revealed that it arose mostly due to his constant comparison of wife with other woman. Mukesh could describe his wife negative traits and deficiencies but couldn’t recall any positive traits or qualities. Further mukesh appreciated the idea that since every person is unique in his own way it’s fruitless to compare one person with another. Mukesh further realised his mistakes and decided to adopt a healthy life style. With the response of the medication and clarity of thought he returned to a normal and healthy sex life in no time
Dr Gupta explained that it is very common for the spouses to feel that they have married the wrong person and Dr. Gupta advise to the person having such feelings is to keep looking for the good qualities that a person has. That way life can sail smoothly.