It was a Sunday morning when Arindam, only a student at that time, along with his father and mother got off from an autorockshaw in front of a Green colored three storeyed building .the guard was there to welcome them. They went to the first floor, the guard opened the door of an empty flat.
Arindams mother instantly liked the room with large windows. The deal was struck.
Paulomi was in the kitchen. Arindam now married to Paulomi was chatting with his mother. Arindam was brealing the news of his nephew being sick. ” Ma, make two cups of tea.” Paulomi’s face tightened in anger. “Is my life only about serving these people? ” she muttered to her self. She barged into the room and orders her mother inlaw to get back into the kitchen and bring three cups of tea for them. Her voice was high pitched reflecting an uncontrollabe anger. Arindam objected to her way of speaking and a long argument ensued amongst the three.
“What is wrong with my daughter in law, Arindam her anger is increasing every day please take her to a doctor before it is too late, “commanded Arindam’s mother. The psychiatrist prescribed medication to Paulomi. Paulomi would oversee because of them and therefore she stopped the medication. Her anger would not subside at all. Arindam after a lot of deliberations decided to meet the marriage counsellors.
“What is bothering you dear?” Nudged Dr Chowdhury.
Poulami nervously glanced at her husband. Dr. cChowdhury understood the cue and asked Arindam to wait out side while she is taking her history.
“Speak calmly and without any hesitation, Poulami, all your words shall remain secret. ” assured Dr. chowdbury.
Poulami, was a beautiful, women, with shiny black long hair and dense arched eyebrows.
“Tell us about your nature” prompted Dr Chowdhury.
“I am a happy girl, but after marriage I feel very frustrated and suffocated in life.
My husband has no time for me, neither has any caring attitude. He has very poor sex desire. ” Poulami paused and sipped some water and continued” so many boys used to propose to me. I was liked by all. But this man will not even look at me. I made a terrible error of judgement, I cannot think, I am cheated, I am feeling sexual frustration.”
“What is problem of Arindam?” Dr Gupta enquired.
“He has no desire. I am the one who intitiates the sex. Most of the time he avoids me. Now I don’t even feel like touching him”.
Dr. Gupta asked the staff nurse to prepare Arindam for examination.
Have you people discussed this problem amongst your self? Asked Dr. Chowdhury.
“We hardly talk with each other , Maam”
Meanwhile, Dr Gupta examined Arindam and diagnosed to be a case of poor erections, inability to maintain erection, low sex desire and low self esteem.
“Is this case curable?, Paolomi could not resist herself. Her future depended on the answer.
“Yes it is, “convinced Dr Gupta.
In the first counselling session, the couple were taught about the importance of talking and touching each other.
Few days later when they returned, Poulami, confessed she is now more relaxed than ever in the marriage. Arindam states that he is now feeling more self-confident, as his erectionsare improving.
In the next session of counseling the therapists explained them the proper and easy posture of sexual intercourse.
After a fortnight Arindam and Poulami had able to consummate their marriage. She was satisfied that Arindam is spending the quality time with her.
After a couple of months, the treatment was discontinued and today the couple has two kids and Poulami has also became a school teacher.
Married life cannot be without arguments. But if the arguments are meaningful, then a positive way forward emerges.